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Juliette Kirk's avatar

Thank you so much for this, Haley! I needed to read this. I am 3 weeks away from my wedding and feeling that unrealistic pressure. This was so comforting to read and know that it will be a beautiful celebration of our love and our soul connection - he loves me for me ♥️

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Haley Weaver's avatar

I'm so glad this poem found you (and I hope you have the most amazing day celebrating your love with your community). All my love!!!

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KHR's avatar

A bit late to the party (lol) but I have to say this post is why I finally hit subscribe! I’ve shared it with so many people - it’s beautifully written, incredibly poignant, relatable and absolutely perfect. Many congrats!

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Absolutely perfect!!! What a compliment. Thank you so much!

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Kelcey Ervick's avatar

This is just so fabulously empowering and affirming and fun and celebratory! ❤️

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Thank you SO much!

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Thalia Toha's avatar

Haley- Thanks for sharing this poem. I particularly love this part: "because this is a woman, who waited decades, to call herself home." I hope you're finding yourself well and 'at home' this week, Haley? :)

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Trying to stay as grounded in my home as I can xx

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Jenny Morgenthaler's avatar

Beautifully put Haley! It is pretty awful that women especially are made to feel like we have to fit into a particular not us-sized mold on our wedding day. I love that you rebelled against that convention (where the heck did that even come from in the first place?!). Cheers to enjoying your special day in as you a way as possible!

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Thank you so much, Jenny!

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Hermione (she/her)'s avatar

I love this so much ♥️ this is how I wish I felt (or what I would have told myself from 9 years old all the way through my mid 30s). I appreciate you and yes—-cheese is fucking delicious—let us rejoice 🧀! Congrats to you and Mr.Pancakes 🥞!

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Caitlinerika's avatar

This is absolutely beautiful! Have a wonderful time at your wedding!

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Thank you!!!

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Caitie Barrett's avatar

Wow thank you for sharing this! I got married last year and also did not try to lose weight for my wedding and this really got me in my heart. I think not trying to change myself for my wedding also made me feel more like I was really bringing my real true self to the day instead of some polished version, which felt important. I hope your wedding is just so wonderful!

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Oh I love this way of looking at it!!!

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Eden Avery's avatar

So beautiful as always Haley <3 and HUGE congratulations to you two!!!! Sending big love!

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Haley Weaver's avatar

sweetest as always eden!!!! thank you so much!

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Spinning Mya's avatar

Thank you for the beautiful comparisons of your body to nature. I especially love the moon analogy. Congratulations on loving yourself and getting married to a man who loves and appreciates you! Have a joyous time.

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Haley Weaver's avatar

We are such a beautiful part of nature! I forget it all too often.

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Beth Spencer's avatar

Beautiful! Those last three lines are so powerful. Happy wedding week! 💐😺

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Thank you! Scariest newsletter I've published yet, so I really appreciate that <3

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Stacy Sepulvado's avatar

Congratulations!

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Thank you Stacy!

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Allison's avatar

Love this so much! I just got married in April and also didn’t try to lose weight for my wedding. But yet any mention of any kind of exercise around a few of my colleagues and they would respond “oh yeah, getting in shape for your big day” ….????? No, I already like my shape. I bought a wedding dress which fits me as I am. Forever baffled by people who feel they need to comment on others bodies.

Also congrats!! Enjoy your day, I hope it’s everything you are hoping for.

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Haley Weaver's avatar

Right?! The culture around a "wedding body" is so bizarre (and unnecessary). I have definitely had to fight the urge to succumb to wanting to shift into someone else entirely to feel like I'm "wedding ready."

I so appreciate your comment and thank you for your well wishes!!!

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